Anger Management - 'An Islamic Approach'

Anger Management

An Islamic Psycho - Spiritual Approach
Anger is a powerful emotion. It can be used either in productive or counter-productive ways. It can lengthen or shorten our lives. Anger is a natural human emotion that everyone experiences at one time or another.

Examples of common factors that can make people angry are:

• Losing someone you love (grief)
• Sexual frustration
• Being tired, hungry or in pain
• Physical withdrawal from certain medicines or drugs
• Conditions, like pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS)

Anger management is a form of counselling to help you cope with any angry feelings you may have that affect your health, work, social behaviour or personal relationships. This course on 'Anger Management' shall focus on psycho – spiritual approaches to anger with the Islamic theoretical aspect using Imam al-Ghazali's ‘Diagnosis of Anger’ and others, and practical steps in dealing with anger.

Special guest speaker includes Cici Collins [BAAM], a consultant dealing with anger.

The Prophet [s] said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." [Al-Bukhari]

Who should attend this course:

• Any person suffering from anger and rage
• Front-line employees/staff
• Parents who have difficulty dealing with their angry children
• Anyone who knows of someone suffering from anger issues
• Teachers who need to find creative ways of managing disruption in the classroom
• Health and care professionals

INSTRUCTORS
Dr. Mamoun Mobayed MD, DPM, MSc , Psychiatrist
Cici Collins Consultant [BAAM], Life Coach, EFT Practitioner, Cici Collins was Channel 4's Celebrity Wife Swap consultant

DATE Saturday 18th July 2009
TIME 9.00am – 6.30pm
VENUE Ebrahim College, 80 Greenfield Road, London, E1 1EJ
(behind East London Mosque [ELM]) (nearest tube station: Aldgate East and Whitechapel)
REGISTER Online at www.iidr.org
INFORMATION T: 07092 813 541
E: info@iidr.org

Future Focussed plus dua!

Assalamu alaykum!

I just wanted to share this with you, a great future focussed hadith and dua which was e-mailed to me...


((مَا مِنْ فَجْرِ يَوْمٍ يَنْشَقُّ إلاَّ وَيُنَادِي مَلَكَان, يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ أنَا يَوْمٌ جَدِيْدٌ, وَعَلي عَمَلِكَ شَهِيْدٌ, فَتَزَوَّدْ مِنِّي فَإنِّي لا أعُوْدُ إلى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَة))

“Not a single dawn breaks out without two angels calling out: ‘Oh Son of Adam, I am a new day and I witness your actions, so make the best out of me because I will never come back till the Day of Judgement’” (Al Ma’thur of the Prophet (saw))

Subhanallah, what better drive is that then that! To be reminded that today has gone, another sun has set on a day which we can never bring back. If we were able to reply this day what would we be proud of…? What would we change…?

Tomorrow, Alhamdulilah is another day; I pray Allah gives us the life to live to see that day, so we can implement anything we learnt form today… Ensure our actions are the best; our outcome is the finest, so that our judgment is successful.


"اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْ يَوْمَنَا حَيرًا مِنْ أمْسِنَا وَجْعَلَ غَدَنَا خَيْرًا مِنْ يَوْمِنَا"

“O! Allah, make our today better than our yesterday, and make our tomorrow better than today”

So if one of your action points was to learn a new dua... how’s this one to learn? :)

Ma'salam

Reflections

on the slippery road of life even the greatest of men and women need to take small safe steps

Special Offer... free cake anyone?

Assalamu alaykum all!

Jazakillah khair to those who have taken advantage of the free 30 min session!

And if you are reading this and haven’t yet had a session, this is because I know you will soon, Inshallah and just wanted to let you know the special offer.


What's the Offer?

I only have a week left on my offer of free sessions and have 30 spaces left.

So what I will do is for 3 referrals you guys give me, you will receive a free MyBaked Cakes 10” cake! MyBaked Cakes is the new cake business that I and my family are setting up; we have a generation of cake baking behind us.

You can see some of them on my facebook page

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=118130&id=507254609&l=de9df16fd6


What You Need To Do

So What do you need to do to get one of these 10” cakes for free?

1) Ensured you have had the free 30 min session yourself
2) Fill the online survey
3) Refer at least 3 sisters to myself (make sure they mention your name!)
4) Your referees complete the survey
5) Eat your cake, baked just the way you like it! :D

Offer ends 26th June 2009

Ma’salam

Sara Bhatti
DiscoverU Lifecoach

07888697639

And if you’re a brother reading this, never fear you can take advantage of this too, all you have to do is instead of referring 3 sisters, you will have to refer 4 sisters! :)

This is the time

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatualli wa barakatu!

Sara Bhatti here, I hope you have been well Inshallah. I wanted to share what I have been up to most recently.

I start by asking you….

Are you ready to TAKE YOURSELF ON!?

"This is the time to become who

YOU have been destined to be"

Do you come home thinking “What did I do today?” Do you want to be able to enjoy your life and be in control? Perhaps you hoped things were different?

· ...wish people would treat you better?
· ...not quite sure where your life is leading?
· ...you want to achieve more?
· ...your parents don't listen to you?
· ...pleasing other people and their dreams and not fulfilling your own?
· …your children seem to have taken over your life?
· ...are you feeling unappreciated?

I have been there

I have wanted better. I have studied Psychology, Counselling, NLP, read self development books and even pop psychology books. I have been on Parent Coaching courses, experienced working with troubled families, worked with youth, Islamic Societies, experienced close bereavement, and seen things go wrong and how to succeed while being a Mediator in the Muslim community.

Recently trained by Muhammad Alshareef in Lifecoaching, I have gained a new perspective, putting together elements of NLP, mixing it up with SMART goals within the context of Islam made it complete, living with Ehsan, living with excellence.
I can see for sure There is a way to get back control.

Is this for Me?

· ...starting new things, a new job, the gym, a new degree but they are just not for you?
· ...want to get married, but just not the right time/person?
· ...expert in procrastination on things you thought you wanted to do?
· ...want to change something but don't know what?
· ...you want to fulfil your dreams?
· ...just not sure where you're headed?

Why not try Lifecoaching? E-mail me and we can get started Inshallah! saraybhatti@yahoo.co.uk

How it Works

To be honest I was a bit skeptical about the whole lifecoach thing, until my curiosity got the better of me. The benefits are many, there is something for everyone!

Things to expect:
· ...holding yourself accountable to do things you're committed to do
· ...consistently grow and face new challenges
· ...clarify what you want
· ...understand your passion to drive you forward
· ...a wake up call to fulfill your dreams
· ...and more...!

Kick your excuses where the sun doesn’t shine!

Testimonials

This is what my clients have said:

“…You were remarkably professional… I definitely appreciated that (and your flexibility!). Other than that I really liked your ability to not give me answers but make me think of them, difficult as they were to vocalise. I realise my inability to answer certain things stems from a reluctance to search for the answers within myself, and I guess the session (and advice) has provided the start point from which I realise I need to search for certain answers.” – Zahra

“My Life Coach projected a contagious enthusiasm that dispelled the lethargy and got me motivated again about the steps I needed to take. Apparently she's been told she's bossy, but personally I need discipline and someone to egg me on, especially since I can lose interest easily. Thank you very much.” – EA

Your Future

You have two choices here, stop reading and continue your life as you have been or start the beginning of a new chapter and reveal the path you have been destined to walk. E-mail now!

Remember....

إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّىٰ يُغَيِّرُوا مَا بِأَنْفُسِهِمْ

Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. (13:11)

Small steps in the beginning to make change for yourself, is the start of your journey with Allah's aide.Helping you to fulfill challenges you face in your life. Book your free 30 min session. What are you waiting for?

Visit www.discoverulife.com for more information.


Sara Bhatti
DiscoverU Lifecoach

saraybhatti@yahoo.co.uk

07888697639

E-mail me. I am waiting to take this exciting journey with you!

Free 30 min session are offered for a limited time, please contact me before 19th June 2009 to book your free session

"This is the time to become who
YOU have been destined to be"

An evening with Ashima

An evening with Ashima

"We no longer sit around as victims of the Kashmir conflict, we shall stop it”

An inspirational evening with an experienced peace worker in Kashmir. on 06 April at 18:00.

Ashima Kaur works for Athwaas, an organisation which aims to create safe and secure spaces for women to come together in order to make the shift from being victims to possible changemakers in Kashmir.

We will hear further about Ashima’s work and have a conversation with her about how her work links to our situation here in the UK.

Athwaas explains their work:
Since November 2007, we have set up 6 new Samanbals. (Samanbal is a Kashmiri word, meaning ‘a meeting place’) Athwaas came up with the idea to create safe and secure spaces for women to come together and share, articulate and express themselves so as to make the shift from being victims to possible changemakers. These new Samanbals are still in their initial stage of formation i.e. they are still establishing a permanent meeting place. The Samanbals are diverse; we have widows in Dardpora, teachers in Badgam, young women in Bijbehar, migrant group (IDPs) Purkha and Muthee small scale traders in Leh. Each Samanbal works towards group formation and strengthen/capacity building. They choose an activity, which often is income generating due to the high poverty levels in the region. They also pursue a common advocacy strategy.

In Purkha migrant camp 20 women who have been displaced from different villages in the valley came together to form a Samanbal. The camp is made up of displaced Kashmir Pandits. The Samanbal provides a context for the women to share a common space for reflection and listening. They taken up tailoring so as to step beyond the cramped conditions of the camp dominated by hate, revenge and chest thumping. The basic principle in the Samanbal is to share information/experience, start the healing process, and acquire financial independence. They are then empowered to tackle the big issues affecting the region, the conflict in Kashmir.


Includes Kashmiri refreashments.

This event is organised jointly by Conflict and Change, Peace Direct and Muslim Mediation Service.

If you would like more information please contact:

Hanin on 020 8552 2050 at Conflict and Change
Sara/ Halima on 020 8432 2805 at Muslim Mediation Service

To see more details and RSVP, follow the link below:
http://www.facebook.com/p.php?i=507254609&k=54155Y5XP6VM511BUB5UP4

Confidence and Self-Esteem

Confidence and Self-Esteem were best friends.



They went everywhere together.

If Confidence bought a new dress,

Self-Esteem bought one just like it.

They were very close.


One day a new kid came to their school.

His name was Peer Pressure.

He had a friend called Hateful Words.

They decided to give Confidence a hard time.

They constantly teased her.

They forced her to do terrible things.

It was so terrible that Confidence

lost Self-Esteem.

When Self-Esteem wanted to start some classes,

Confidence said they wouldn't be any good.


Then one day, Peer Pressure introduced

Confidence to Doubt.

He wanted to ruin Confidence,

but Peer Pressure said he couldn't yet.



Self Esteem couldn't understand what

was wrong with Confidence.



Confidence now hung around with Depression,

Low Self-Esteem, and Overeating.


These girls were friends of Peer Pressure.

Self-Esteem no longer had any friends.

She no longer felt good about herself.

She went to see her Imaam Good Words.



Imaam Good Words told her how to talk to Confidence.

He introduced her to his daughter, Encouragement.


Encouragement and Self-Esteem

went to find Confidence.



Self Esteem hoped she wasn't too late.

The girls found Confidence in a stupor.

She was no longer a vibrant,

happy young girl.



There were dark circles under her eyes.

She had gained so much weight from eating

that she couldn't move.

Encouragement gasped and Self-Esteem cried.

She begged Encouragement to do something.

Encouragement began to hug Confidence.

She kissed her and loved her.

She told her that she was a beautiful young lady

who had a lot going for her.


Encouragement held Confidence so tightly

that Self-Esteem thought she would smother her.



Confidence began to cry.

As she cried, she seemed to lose weight.

Then a bright light suddenly glowed from

Confidence and she began to smile.


Peer Pressure and his friends didn't like

what Encouragement was doing

and tried to attack her.



They hit at her and pulled at her, but they

couldn't pull her away from Confidence.

Then Confidence began to speak.


"Get away from me, Peer Pressure.

Take your friends and go.

You no longer have any power over me.

" Confidence was now a glowing light.

She and her friends made sure that

Peer Pressure and his gang never

bothered anyone in their town again.




If you feel that Encouragement is not your friend,

then try to find Encouragement in yourself.

Self-Esteem and Confidence will follow.